I am so glad you where okay with my comments.  Sometimes I am very verbal and it can get me in trouble.  However I have a question into my computer friend, who knows everything so I will send that response to you privately as soon as I get it.  Have a great day!

Thanks so much for your comment. It means alot to hear that I am not being to over protective.  I also made so of the mistakes that you mentioned and it took awhile for me to get my life back on the right track. I don't think that kids realize that one thing like sex can change your entire future and so we discuss these issues even though I can see the dread in her face. I would like to know if you know how I go about getting tracking info for our computer. I know that there is good software out there just not sure what it is.  Well I have a child at my knees hollaring mama so I better get to it. I will check in in a few days. and again Thank YOu sooo much. The advice and someone else confirming what i think makes me feel much better.

Wow!  I am so impressed by all that you are juggling.  I wish we lived in the same area, I would love to get together and pick your brain for all your tips!

I have thought for a while about your situation and I am very careful about choosing my words at this moment because I know what a serious subject teenager issues can be and it is not to be taking lightly.  I do believe that teenagers are the most amazing age group in our society.  They have so much energy, so many ideas and they are filled with so much life.  However they don't always understand (because of lack of life experience) that bad things can happen to them.  It just doesn't happen to everyone else.  They tend to think of themselves as invinsible.  I can only share my personal experience. I was pretty much a model student and teen.  I made excellent grades, I obeyed my parents (or so they thought), and a didn't get into any trouble at school.  So, my mom in turn gave me lots of freedom and space.  She never really questioned my actions and whereabouts because she trusted me.  I was sexually active, doing mild drugs (alcohol and pot) and lying.  I am sure that most of you are with me on this one and realize that most of teenagers to these things.  But I feel now as an adult that I wish my mom had talked to me more. I wish that she had been like my friends moms and questioned me about my decisions.  Now, I know that she agrees because we have since talked about it.  You better believe with my daughter there will be sex talks, there will be lots of phone calls and internet tracking.  I am not trying to rob my daughter of any freedom.  I want to have a very open relationship.  I would want her to be able her to not be scared to call me if she had been drinking and didn't want to drive.  Not that I condone teenage drinking but I care more about her staying alive long enough for us to talk about the potential dangers of drinking and sex.  

I hope I am not freaking you out but I am so happy you brought this up.  My husband on the other hand comes from the school of thought that you lock them in their rooms and don't let them go out at all and if you don't talk about drinking and sex it won't happen.  I can't raise my kids that way.  I am here on this earth to teach them and be their go to person (instead of their friends).  Would I prefer my kids to not have a sip of alcohol until they are 21 and not have sex until they are married.  Of course but I am also not living in the 1930's.  Kids are under so much pressure and exposed to so much that we weren't exposed to.  I think that these are the toughest years and as long as we and our teens survive them unharmed and we all learn a thing or two than we have done our job.