I am so sorry.  I can't imagine how hard it is to think of leaving your home.  My friend went through a similar situation and I know it was so hard for her.  I know as women we love our home.  It is where we spend so much time with the kids, we clean it, we organize it and we are attached to it.  It is not as hard for men because they aren't there as often.  Just know that you are not alone.  You are NOT a loser.  Most of the country is struggling.  You must stay strong and shead a few tears but just know that everything goes up and down.  Everything will turn around.  Maybe not next week or next month but it will be good again.  

My husband said the same thing that we had to make cuts to maintain our lifestyle.  I don't understand that because my life style didn't include these cuts.  I was really upset but once we made the adjustments I realized that I was actually okay with less.  Somehow my world didn't fall apart like I told him it would.  It was brought us closer in our relationship and I am grateful.  I know it is hard, hang in there and make a joke about it here and there.  We do and it helps. Keep me up to date on what happens

I may be a little late on commenting about this subject, but my husband and I are super stressed about everything going on. My situation is similar to the one below. I got to quit my job 2 1/2 years ago to stay at home with my 2 daughters at the time, then we had another one ayear and a half ago. I wasn't too worried at the time. My husband had a good paying job, we bought an awesome brand new house that we thoght was the greatest deal on earth. Then, this last year, my husbands work developed a new budget plan which eliminated alot of hours. I, on the other hand am willing to go back to work to save the house, but we're afraid my income and his still just won't pay the bills (the horrible intrest only loan thats going to go up won't help us any either). My husband thinks we should just do ashort sale and get out of here ASAP, and not compromise our lifestyle of me being at home with the kids. In a way I know hes right, but I feel like such a loser. Plus we have to leave our beautiful home, such a horrible feeling.

We are feeling the stress too in our family. When I had my daughter a year and a half ago, I quit my job to stay home with her. We had just moved into a new home and we thought we would be ok since my husband had a very good paying job. That is, I thought we'd be ok. Now that times are tuff, my husband wants me to go back to work and I know he is right, but I can't go back to my old job since I did not leave on the best of terms and my husband won't settle for me getting payed less than what I was making before. He doesn't understand or want to accept that chances are I may get paid less due to the economy. It's put a big strain on our marriage. I know he's right to be angry.

Hang in there. We just have to have faith that things will work out the way they should.

Yes, I wish all the talk about the economy going down and the prices of gas going up to just go away. I always change the channel or the subject when it comes up simply because I would rather ignore it in hopes that it will go away, which is quite childish on my part. I am in the private education business, which is taking a hit because families simply have to cut back and take their kids out of private school, so we are all feeling it. Right now I'm extra stressed about finding someone to watch my precious little one when I go back to work at the end of August. We have been striking out with all the options that have been presented to us. Anyway, I feel your pain... and all I can say is that the pendulum swings both ways, it will swing back. But in the mean time hang in there. It will get better. 

I know what you are going through, we have had to give up our home we bought in the desert when we moved back to san diego and that was hard. Getting rid of the little things that you are used to is hard to, even though they are not a nessary tey are still nice to have. Keep your chin up it will get better

What have you had to give up?  Why are you making cutbacks?

Move to PA, it's a lot less expensive